Tag: somatic work

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A new map for love, support, and receiving

Many sensitive women don’t realize they’re relating to love, support, and success through a very old nervous system map. 

A map that was created when they were too young to know that the level of care they received wasn’t necessarily the level that is available to them now.

If your early experience involved inconsistency, emotional unavailability, or carrying more than a child should have to carry, a younger part have learned: maybe this is as good as it gets.

That experience isn’t only a belief, it lives in your body as a felt sense of what life allows. … Continue readingA new map for love, support, and receiving

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Letting Yourself Be Seen by the Right People and Opportunities 

I see so many kind, empathic, ambitious women waiting to be chosen by people who were never truly available for them.

Over time, this teaches their nervous system that love must be earned through patience, being overly understanding, or making themselves smaller. 

And often, that same pattern is showing up in their work too, where they feel like they constantly have to prove that they and their skills are enough instead of them being naturally recognized, appreciated and valued. … Continue readingLetting Yourself Be Seen by the Right People and Opportunities 

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Letting Love and Support Come Closer

Often for very capable driven women the most powerful relationship work is realizing they don’t need to force themselves to become better or easier to love and helping their body feel safe receiving what they want.

The real “work” (that itself feels very pleasant and supportive) is giving your nervous system the felt experience of care that feels nourishing, support that you didn’t have to earn, and love that doesn’t require you to change yourself.

From this settled state, your nervous system does not have to work so hard to protect you so it has space to receive love, support, ease, and the experiences you have been longing for.

When your body begins to experience secure, safe connection with you, your relational baseline starts to change. Safety, warmth, and support become familiar and this naturally changes what your system can stay available for and receive. … Continue readingLetting Love and Support Come Closer