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The Missing Piece in Receiving the Love and Support You Want: Feeling Safe

Your nervous system doesn’t just keep you from getting hurt.

Sometimes it also stops you from getting what you want, especially if past experiences of love and support came with disappointment or losing yourself.

Capable, self-aware women often think the way to get what they want is to do more.

They believe they need to be more confident, attractive, in control, or successful before they can have the relationship they desire.

Or they feel they need to be more disciplined and consistent before they deserve recognition or financial success.

But while your mind might think you need to improve yourself, your nervous system usually needs something completely different. … Continue readingThe Missing Piece in Receiving the Love and Support You Want: Feeling Safe

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You Don’t Have to Become Better to Have the Love and Support You Want

A part of you already knows that love and support is not something you should have to earn. And yet your body keeps relating to those things through the same old pressure.

Because this isn’t primarily an information problem.

It is a relationship problem. The way you relate to yourself, support, and receiving. And the way you relate to love.

This is why in somatic work we begin creating a different relationship with yourself.
… Continue readingYou Don’t Have to Become Better to Have the Love and Support You Want

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How Your Body Learns to Choose Stable Love and Supportive Work

If you grew up around criticism, instability, or people who didn’t have the capacity to truly see you, your nervous system has learned that being careful was safer than being yourself.

So a part of you learned to stay in control, stay ahead, and make sure you didn’t get anything wrong. 

It learned to become harsh and controlling, because it believed that was the best way to keep you safe.

This protector slowly became the thing it was trying to protect you from.

And underneath that protector is usually a little girl who felt overwhelmed. … Continue readingHow Your Body Learns to Choose Stable Love and Supportive Work