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How Your Body Learns to Choose Stable Love and Supportive Work

If you grew up around criticism, instability, or people who didn’t have the capacity to truly see you, your nervous system has learned that being careful was safer than being yourself.

So a part of you learned to stay in control, stay ahead, and make sure you didn’t get anything wrong. 

It learned to become harsh and controlling, because it believed that was the best way to keep you safe.

This protector slowly became the thing it was trying to protect you from.

And underneath that protector is usually a little girl who felt overwhelmed. … Continue readingHow Your Body Learns to Choose Stable Love and Supportive Work

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A new map for love, support, and receiving

Many sensitive women don’t realize they’re relating to love, support, and success through a very old nervous system map. 

A map that was created when they were too young to know that the level of care they received wasn’t necessarily the level that is available to them now.

If your early experience involved inconsistency, emotional unavailability, or carrying more than a child should have to carry, a younger part have learned: maybe this is as good as it gets.

That experience isn’t only a belief, it lives in your body as a felt sense of what life allows. … Continue readingA new map for love, support, and receiving

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From shaky to steady in love and work: What actually creates stability (it’s not doing more)

There’s that one part of your life that feels different.

It’s heavier, more important, almost charged with emotion, longing or urgency, yet also the place where things seem the most shaky.

If you’re like a lot of high-achieving women, this might show up in your relationships or career.

The area where you want to feel secure and seen, but instead, you feel constant anxiety in the background.

It’s like, you want this thing so much, but it just feels… elusive. … Continue readingFrom shaky to steady in love and work: What actually creates stability (it’s not doing more)