If you’re a capable, high-achieving woman, receiving and feeling held in relationships can feel elusive because your system is used to overcoming, earning, and working hard… even for love and support.
It often feels like if you slowed down, you’d be left behind, and the idea that you can be loved and chosen without having to constantly work on yourself or give a lot in return seems unbelievable.
You have already mastered achieving goals, solving problems, and making things happen. You are often the one leading and supporting others, and it has been that way for as long as you can remember.
But receiving and feeling cherished is usually a completely new experience for your nervous system because it asks your body to become comfortable trusting that you are already enough to be loved, supported, and chosen exactly as you are.
When you relate to yourself and life through achievement, your body doesn’t have time to feel safe with you and stay present in your daily life long enough to notice opportunities to receive.
Imagine that how you consistently feel about yourself, love, and receiving, together with your nervous system state, creates your personal relational field.
The stronger, lighter, and more spacious your field, the more you can receive.
One thing I know to be true from regularly working with capable women is that they often live outside of their bodies. To them, it feels like they are racing through their lives and relationships, feeling like enjoyment, deeper connection, and rest are just around the corner.
They often live with an underlying feeling of urgency and activation that feels like a fiery sensation in their body that drives them forward.
Because they live “ahead” of their system, they often don’t notice when they have left their relational field and stepped into someone else’s. This trains their internal “picker“ to choose partners, coworkers, and friends who weaken their field instead of nourishing it.
To start receiving more love, support, and opportunities, we first help you feel at home in your body, so staying with yourself becomes so enjoyable that you no longer want to leave your new “home.”
When a high-achieving woman allows herself to slow down and start enjoying small moments of safety throughout her day that feel like, “This moment right here is enough,” her energy comes back home to her.
That’s when your relational field starts growing stronger and lighter at the same time because you are no longer spending your energy and time on rescuing others, fixing things, or solving the future.
In The Sanctuary women learn how to keep their energy with them while bringing the feeling of being supported and held into their body.
It’s this combination of tending to your inner state while feeling safe, supported, and protected from within that allows your system to open to receive.
A woman’s system opens to receive healthy love, relationships, and support when she feels safe in her body without needing to change herself.
It´s the same feeling you have when you are with an empowered partner – he stands on his own two feet and enjoys your presence while making your life easier. There is no drama, urgency (no rushing), waiting to be rescued, or leaning on your strength to make his life easier.
Your relational field stays intact and protected when you are with him because he respects your boundaries and capacity instead of trying to poke at them (emotional immaturity).
This is usually the hardest part for very capable women to trust – that a healthy partner and the right opportunities come to you and recognize you based on your unique signal, without you having to change yourself or do anything that leaves you energetically depleted.
The more you accept yourself and use your own “doing energy” to support yourself and protect your relational field, the brighter and stronger your unique signal becomes.
That´s when you create space to receive what is your true match in love, work and all the other areas that are meant to support you. When it comes to the right partner, opportunities or the next best step for you in your work, you don´t chase or fix them, you receive them.
And to receive them more easily, you want to cultivate a calm, serene feeling in your body that helps you recognize what feels nourishing and supportive in the outside world, too.
When sensitive, intuitive, high-achieving women learn to use the energy they’ve previously spent on staying busy and doing things that didn’t feel good to support themselves instead, they start creating amazing lives for themselves.
Their relational field starts effortlessly filtering the opportunities, support, and connections that nourish it further, while repelling the ones that were never a true match.
I created an amazing space for high-achieving, intuitive women where we practice all of this and much more. You’ll learn how to build healthy relationships that feel nourishing and effortless by staying true to who you are and using your body’s cues and the self-awareness you’ve already cultivated in a way that finally supports you.
The Sanctuary practice portal is a fit for women who are intuitive, self-led, empathic, and tired of trying to change themselves in order to have the love, career, and relationships they know they desire. Together, we show your body what healthy love and support feel like and how to stay available to receive them while building the life you’ve always wanted to create for yourself.
You can join us HERE.
And for women who prefer individual support, I have a 10-week one-on-one program where we work specifically with your nervous system and attachment patterns to create supportive, healthy relationships in all areas of your life for the best long-term results.
You can apply HERE.
