Tag: healthy relationship

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Letting Yourself Be Seen by the Right People and Opportunities 

I see so many kind, empathic, ambitious women waiting to be chosen by people who were never truly available for them.

Over time, this teaches their nervous system that love must be earned through patience, being overly understanding, or making themselves smaller. 

And often, that same pattern is showing up in their work too, where they feel like they constantly have to prove that they and their skills are enough instead of them being naturally recognized, appreciated and valued. … Continue readingLetting Yourself Be Seen by the Right People and Opportunities 

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Letting Love and Support Come Closer

Often for very capable driven women the most powerful relationship work is realizing they don’t need to force themselves to become better or easier to love and helping their body feel safe receiving what they want.

The real “work” (that itself feels very pleasant and supportive) is giving your nervous system the felt experience of care that feels nourishing, support that you didn’t have to earn, and love that doesn’t require you to change yourself.

From this settled state, your nervous system does not have to work so hard to protect you so it has space to receive love, support, ease, and the experiences you have been longing for.

When your body begins to experience secure, safe connection with you, your relational baseline starts to change. Safety, warmth, and support become familiar and this naturally changes what your system can stay available for and receive. … Continue readingLetting Love and Support Come Closer

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From shaky to steady in love and work: What actually creates stability (it’s not doing more)

There’s that one part of your life that feels different.

It’s heavier, more important, almost charged with emotion, longing or urgency, yet also the place where things seem the most shaky.

If you’re like a lot of high-achieving women, this might show up in your relationships or career.

The area where you want to feel secure and seen, but instead, you feel constant anxiety in the background.

It’s like, you want this thing so much, but it just feels… elusive. … Continue readingFrom shaky to steady in love and work: What actually creates stability (it’s not doing more)