Tag: nervous system

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The Missing Piece in Receiving the Love and Support You Want: Feeling Safe

Your nervous system doesn’t just keep you from getting hurt.

Sometimes it also stops you from getting what you want, especially if past experiences of love and support came with disappointment or losing yourself.

Capable, self-aware women often think the way to get what they want is to do more.

They believe they need to be more confident, attractive, in control, or successful before they can have the relationship they desire.

Or they feel they need to be more disciplined and consistent before they deserve recognition or financial success.

But while your mind might think you need to improve yourself, your nervous system usually needs something completely different. … Continue readingThe Missing Piece in Receiving the Love and Support You Want: Feeling Safe

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How to Feel Safe Being Fully Yourself

What if the pressure to become a better version of yourself isn’t actually helping you receive more love or support?

What if it’s only convincing your nervous system that who you are today isn’t enough?

Many sensitive, capable women I work with don’t realize at first that a part of them is striving to become someone else.

A part of them learned that they’ll receive more love, support, and success once they become a little more shiny. … Continue readingHow to Feel Safe Being Fully Yourself

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How Your Body Learns to Choose Stable Love and Supportive Work

If you grew up around criticism, instability, or people who didn’t have the capacity to truly see you, your nervous system has learned that being careful was safer than being yourself.

So a part of you learned to stay in control, stay ahead, and make sure you didn’t get anything wrong. 

It learned to become harsh and controlling, because it believed that was the best way to keep you safe.

This protector slowly became the thing it was trying to protect you from.

And underneath that protector is usually a little girl who felt overwhelmed. … Continue readingHow Your Body Learns to Choose Stable Love and Supportive Work