When Your Own Presence Feels Like Home: Letting Yourself Be Seen, Supported, and Loved

Many sensitive, capable women mistake self-evaluation for self-awareness.

They have spent so long looking at themselves through a harsh inner lens that they don’t always notice how much energy it takes and how deeply it affects the way they relate, work, and allow themselves to be seen.

There is a big difference between being attuned to yourself and constantly evaluating yourself.

Especially for growth-oriented high-achieving women what looks like self-awareness is often self-evaluation in disguise. … Continue readingWhen Your Own Presence Feels Like Home: Letting Yourself Be Seen, Supported, and Loved

Learning to Stay With What You Feel: Moving toward reciprocal relationships

One of the most encouraging things to learn about your nervous system is this:

Your emotions don’t get stronger because you’re broken — they get stronger because they’re looking for you.

When you try to push past what you feel or “hold it together,” your system doesn’t quiet down; it simply tries harder to get your attention.
Not to overwhelm you — but to communicate. … Continue readingLearning to Stay With What You Feel: Moving toward reciprocal relationships