Tag: nervous system regulation

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Letting Love and Support Come Closer

Often for very capable driven women the most powerful relationship work is realizing they don’t need to force themselves to become better or easier to love and helping their body feel safe receiving what they want.

The real “work” (that itself feels very pleasant and supportive) is giving your nervous system the felt experience of care that feels nourishing, support that you didn’t have to earn, and love that doesn’t require you to change yourself.

From this settled state, your nervous system does not have to work so hard to protect you so it has space to receive love, support, ease, and the experiences you have been longing for.

When your body begins to experience secure, safe connection with you, your relational baseline starts to change. Safety, warmth, and support become familiar and this naturally changes what your system can stay available for and receive. … Continue readingLetting Love and Support Come Closer

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You’re Already Doing More Than Enough: And It’s Leaving No Space for the Work and Relationships You Actually Want

What if the reason you feel behind…
is not because you haven’t done enough,

but because you’ve actually done more than most people around you
and it still doesn’t feel like enough?

What if the problem isn’t that you need to push or try harder,
but that there is not much space left for something or someone to actually step in? … Continue readingYou’re Already Doing More Than Enough: And It’s Leaving No Space for the Work and Relationships You Actually Want

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The Relief of Not Having to Perform in Your Relationships and Career: When You Don’t Have to Get It Right

There’s a kind of woman people naturally rely on.

At work, she’s the one who notices what’s missing before anyone else does.
In friendships, she’s the one who keeps things running smoothly.
In family dynamics, she’s the one who can feel tension coming before it shows up.

In romantic relationships, she often ends up tending to the emotional atmosphere.

To others it can seem like she enjoys being in control. But for her that feeling of being one step ahead of everyone is how her system learned to protect itself.

Her nervous system learned, a long time ago, to anticipate and manage. It learned that paying attention early could prevent things from falling apart.

From the outside, this often looks like competence and ambition. Inside, it feels more like she is carrying everything on her own. … Continue readingThe Relief of Not Having to Perform in Your Relationships and Career: When You Don’t Have to Get It Right