Tag: nervous system regulation

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Creating From the Feeling of Being Held

There is a common pattern with capable, high-achieving women who desire more love, support, intimacy, visibility, or growth.

It is the feeling that what they want is always somewhere ahead of them.

It shows up in their body as a sensation of urgency, restlessness, and pressure: I need to do more, I need to try harder. I need to become better. I need to figure this out.

The feeling of urgency is how they have related to love, money, or work for years, so they often don´t notice that their system rarely comes down to a state of safety or support around that area. … Continue readingCreating From the Feeling of Being Held

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Letting Love and Support Come Closer

Often for very capable driven women the most powerful relationship work is realizing they don’t need to force themselves to become better or easier to love and helping their body feel safe receiving what they want.

The real “work” (that itself feels very pleasant and supportive) is giving your nervous system the felt experience of care that feels nourishing, support that you didn’t have to earn, and love that doesn’t require you to change yourself.

From this settled state, your nervous system does not have to work so hard to protect you so it has space to receive love, support, ease, and the experiences you have been longing for.

When your body begins to experience secure, safe connection with you, your relational baseline starts to change. Safety, warmth, and support become familiar and this naturally changes what your system can stay available for and receive. … Continue readingLetting Love and Support Come Closer

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You’re Already Doing More Than Enough: And It’s Leaving No Space for the Work and Relationships You Actually Want

What if the reason you feel behind…
is not because you haven’t done enough,

but because you’ve actually done more than most people around you
and it still doesn’t feel like enough?

What if the problem isn’t that you need to push or try harder,
but that there is not much space left for something or someone to actually step in? … Continue readingYou’re Already Doing More Than Enough: And It’s Leaving No Space for the Work and Relationships You Actually Want