Tag: nervous system regulation

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You’re Already Doing More Than Enough: And It’s Leaving No Space for the Work and Relationships You Actually Want

What if the reason you feel behind…
is not because you haven’t done enough,

but because you’ve actually done more than most people around you
and it still doesn’t feel like enough?

What if the problem isn’t that you need to push or try harder,
but that there is not much space left for something or someone to actually step in? … Continue readingYou’re Already Doing More Than Enough: And It’s Leaving No Space for the Work and Relationships You Actually Want

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The Relief of Not Having to Perform in Your Relationships and Career: When You Don’t Have to Get It Right

There’s a kind of woman people naturally rely on.

At work, she’s the one who notices what’s missing before anyone else does.
In friendships, she’s the one who keeps things running smoothly.
In family dynamics, she’s the one who can feel tension coming before it shows up.

In romantic relationships, she often ends up tending to the emotional atmosphere.

To others it can seem like she enjoys being in control. But for her that feeling of being one step ahead of everyone is how her system learned to protect itself.

Her nervous system learned, a long time ago, to anticipate and manage. It learned that paying attention early could prevent things from falling apart.

From the outside, this often looks like competence and ambition. Inside, it feels more like she is carrying everything on her own. … Continue readingThe Relief of Not Having to Perform in Your Relationships and Career: When You Don’t Have to Get It Right

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What If Your Softness Was Never the Problem?

So many of us confuse softness with weakness —
but what we often call softness is actually safety expressed through the body.

Society talks a lot about strength. But for many women, “strength” has meant tension.

Holding it together. Anticipating what’s next. Making sure everyone else feels okay. … Continue readingWhat If Your Softness Was Never the Problem?