The Charmer, the Loverboy, and the Man Who You Can Build Life With

One of the most important changes I see in women I work with is becoming less focused on avoiding the wrong man and more able to recognize how the right kind of relationship feels.

Self-aware empathic women are often used to blaming themselves when something feels off in their relationships.

This article will help you recognize where the man is on the spectrum of emotional availability >>> unavailability and that it has nothing to do with you. … Continue readingThe Charmer, the Loverboy, and the Man Who You Can Build Life With

The Missing Skill That Helps You Feel Secure in a Relationship

A lot of women spend years learning how to avoid unhealthy relationships. But avoiding unhealthy relationships isn’t the same thing as choosing healthy ones. Most of the women I work with have already read the books, learned the signs, and keep a mental checklist of … Continue readingThe Missing Skill That Helps You Feel Secure in a Relationship

The Missing Piece in Receiving the Love and Support You Want: Feeling Safe

Your nervous system doesn’t just keep you from getting hurt.

Sometimes it also stops you from getting what you want, especially if past experiences of love and support came with disappointment or losing yourself.

Capable, self-aware women often think the way to get what they want is to do more.

They believe they need to be more confident, attractive, in control, or successful before they can have the relationship they desire.

Or they feel they need to be more disciplined and consistent before they deserve recognition or financial success.

But while your mind might think you need to improve yourself, your nervous system usually needs something completely different. … Continue readingThe Missing Piece in Receiving the Love and Support You Want: Feeling Safe