Somatic attachment & regulation work
A lot of women spend years learning how to avoid unhealthy relationships. But avoiding unhealthy relationships isn’t the same thing as choosing healthy ones. Most of the women I work with have already read the books, learned the signs, and keep a mental checklist of … Continue readingThe Missing Skill That Helps You Feel Secure in a Relationship
Your nervous system doesn’t just keep you from getting hurt.
Sometimes it also stops you from getting what you want, especially if past experiences of love and support came with disappointment or losing yourself.
Capable, self-aware women often think the way to get what they want is to do more.
They believe they need to be more confident, attractive, in control, or successful before they can have the relationship they desire.
Or they feel they need to be more disciplined and consistent before they deserve recognition or financial success.
But while your mind might think you need to improve yourself, your nervous system usually needs something completely different. … Continue readingThe Missing Piece in Receiving the Love and Support You Want: Feeling Safe
If you’ve spent years working on yourself, it’s easy to believe that deeper love and more fulfilling work are just one more breakthrough away.
But what if the love and career you want don’t require you to become someone else?
What if they simply ask you to become more of who you already are?
Most women I work with eventually discover that what was keeping them from deeper love and more fulfilling work wasn’t a lack of information.
They didn’t need another book, communication tool, or mindset shift.
They needed to feel safe enough to stop hiding themselves. … Continue readingStop Hiding Yourself: The Somatic Path to Love and Meaningful Work